… is that no one believes you when you tell them you are fine not being in a relationship. Because everyone wants to be in a relationship, right? “What’s your situation right now?” a friend asked me the other day. I said I’m not seeing anyone, and I’m not that interested in finding someone to see. I feel like the reaction I got was: “Oh, suuuuure… ya desperate loser. Go die alone.” I mean, I’m not anti-relationship or anything. Relationships have their benefits. One recent Friday night I was on the couch with only a glass of wine for company, watching a kids’ movie from the ’80s about a sexy cartoon unicorn. Keep in mind I am a 30-year-old, financially independent man who lives alone. And it occurred to me that having another adult around might make sexy unicorn times slightly less pathetic. Very slightly. But even though I’m single, I do have romance in my life. I don’t mean to brag but on my way home from work the other evening, I was coming out of Kings Cross station when I made eye contact with a homeless woman crouched in the curb. As our gazes met, she started sobbing. It’s the little things that count.